3 keys to a Fruitful Parent-Teacher Meeting (for Educators)

As teachers, we may overlook the anxiety parents face whenever we call to discuss matters about their child. No one is at fault. Rather it's a matter of perspective. The article reminded me of my experience at meet the parent sessions, which has fortunately been pleasant and fulfilling thus far. There are many factors at play, with the key factor being the profile of the students and parents. I shall attempt to sieve out the 3 keys based on my own experience as well as advice from mentors.

Key #1 : Schedule the call/session in advance with the parent (by email or text)

One of the worst things we can do, would be to "pounce" on the parent without "warning" by calling them suddenly and "offloading". As the teacher who initiates the crucial conversation with the parent, we know why we are calling, had possibly rehearsed in our heads the conversation and have also prepared the data to support our views. Just like the host of a gathering, we initiate the day and timing. Most likely, it will be on a day when our day is not as packed. If we needed the mind space for that conversation, what more for parents? Therefore, I find that sending an email or a text in advance allows them the needed time to look at their schedule before replying to you. Try not to call if possible so that they are not caught off guard.

Key #2: Provide parents an outline of what will be discussed and furnish any data for their consideration (in conjunction with key #1)

Very much like a staff meeting, we want to know what we will be doing and what we hope to achieve for that session. Likewise, parents want to know that their time is not wasted. Teachers play the role of a supportive and knowledgeable friend to parents. At times when parents are unable to see why the meeting is needful, teachers can approach from an educator's point of view and advice on the need to have a discussion.

Hence, when all parties are aware of what's going on, it sets the context for the upcoming meeting, thus preventing any misunderstandings and encourages objectivity.

Key #3: Handle every conversation with care

"People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. - Theodore Roosevelt" This quote sums up how our interaction should be with anyone. As important it is to understand the learning styles of a child, as teachers, we must also be flexible when communicate with parents. The article highlights that different emotions are at play in every parent-teacher interaction, ranging from the possible sense of guilt of parents and putting up a defensive front to the delicate psychology of the child who is usually the one who bears the brunt of unintended consequences, albeit with good intent. Therefore, the basis of every conversation should be about caring for the child and parent and supporting them as much as we can.

At the end of the day, both parent and teachers have the same goal, and that is to nurture the child and see them confident and happy.

https://www.schoolbag.edu.sg/story/hello-mrs-ranjan-i-would-like-to-speak-to-you-about-your-son